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How Our Emotions Impact Productivity

| By ventovertea | By
Our emotions play a large role in whether or not we get things done. Even if everything is set up perfectly for a productive work session, there are moments when our emotions get the best of us.

Your Path to Meaning

| By ventovertea
Meaning exists in everything around us and is waiting to be discovered.

Navigating the Workplace with a Disability

| By ventovertea | By
How come people with health complications are accommodated during education but once they are in the working field they are perceived as an additional cost and a headache to deal with?

Finding Value

| By Danielle Boucher | By
Values are not about what you want to get out of life—they are about how you strive to behave on an ongoing basis.

Grieving Who I Could’ve Been

| By ventovertea | By , ,
I feel a bit of grief for the loss of this person I never even got to hold or embody. Can we grieve something we never had?

Ten Tips for Unemployment During COVID-19

| By ventovertea
After the COVID wave of unemployment, we all chose to lead our job search in a certain way. Read to find out how to make the most of your unemployment.

The Power of a Daily Routine

| By Danielle Boucher
It can be hard to pinpoint the exact culprit of negative feelings. Most of the time, it comes down to one thing—routine, or lack thereof.

How to Change Your Unhelpful Thinking Styles

| By Danielle Boucher
We all have unhelpful thinking styles. In any given situation, our brains find multiple ways to try to trick us into negative thinking patterns.

Love in Different Languages

| By ventovertea
Next time your anxiety is tricking you into believing that your partner doesn’t love you, take a minute to reflect on how their love language differentiates from yours
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Ten Tips for Active Listening

| By ventovertea
People always talk about supporting others and being there for them, but how open are we really?

Living with Anxiety

| By ventovertea
It’s intrusive thoughts that simply won’t go away no matter how much you try to escape them.

I Tracked My Mood for a Month—This is What Happened

| By Danielle Boucher
It was hard to see the big picture when all I could remember were my intense feelings of despair.

The Dangers of Labeling

| By ventovertea
Our use of labels combined with our own negative self-talk continues to fuel an already fragile human condition and can contribute to physical symptoms of depression to anxiety.

The Drip and the Spark

| By ventovertea
How an understanding of change in conjunction with an accurate understanding of self can allow us to accelerate learning in any area.

The Power of Positive Affirmations

| By ventovertea
It’s truly time to bring some positivity into our lives. Let’s make it our goal this new year!

Surviving the Holidays During a Pandemic

| By Danielle Boucher
Although we cannot control the fact that there’s a pandemic during the holidays, there are still ways in which we can stay afloat during this confusing, unique season.

Finding Clarity Through the Healing Process

| By ventovertea
This is the magic of the healing process—it’s so much simpler than we sometimes make it out to be.

Feeling Like a Burden

| By ventovertea
We are not a burden; it is a mind trick that requires a swiftly concentrated brain to overcome it. We are more than capable of being our own heroes and saving our lost souls from the dark and stormy black sea of negative thoughts.

Confessions From an Instagram Newbie

| By ventovertea
The thing with Instagram is that it thrives on constant posting and most importantly garnering those critical likes! My need to have someone “like” me was turning into self-destruction.

Dating With Anxiety

| By ventovertea
Oftentimes, the thought of putting yourself out there and being vulnerable may sound anxiety-provoking. Sometimes we may find that relationships feel more difficult to maintain when we have anxiety.

Being Pluto

| By ventovertea
This feeling of disconnection is common amongst the general population but it doesn’t have to be a forever thing.

The Bell Jar Effect

| By Danielle Boucher
Sometimes, finding support in anonymity or through introspection is more attainable than venting aloud, and that’s okay. There is no one-size-fits-all solution to getting through the depths of mental illness.

When Change Becomes Overwhelming

| By ventovertea
The leaves are changing colors and the sweaters are getting thicker. It’s a new season of change and if you’re finding yourself feeling overwhelmed about it, you’re not alone.

How to Prioritize Self-care While Working from Home

| By ventovertea
At the beginning of quarantine, I had a difficult time adjusting to what some called our “new normal.” I held a lot of hope that we were going to go back into the office.

Goodbye From Your Blog Manager

| By ventovertea
Though I’ll be leaving the team, I won’t forget all the things I’ve learned at Vent Over Tea – and I hope to carry it with me wherever I go.

Meet Our New Blog Manager

| By Danielle Boucher
I was scrolling online when my friend sent me a link to a job posting for a Blog Manager position. “Thought this might interest you,” he said.

Don’t Feed The Demon

| By ventovertea
As someone who struggles with a mental illness, I’ve often felt like I had to wrestle with an annoying little demon that lives in my brain.

Between Connection And Freedom

| By ventovertea
Most of us probably felt lonely and missed our friends during the covid-19 lockdown. But in some ways, it also gave us plenty of alone time to express ourselves freely, without fear of judgement.

In Queer Waters

| By Marissa Norton
As we celebrate Pride this week in Montreal, I wanted to share my journey about how I went from struggling with invalidation and self-doubt, to fully embracing my bisexuality.

Common Myths About Eating Disorders

| By ventovertea
Eating disorders are debilitating conditions that can have life-threatening consequences. In order to help those who are affected, we must debunk the many myths that still surround them.

When Your Mind Lies To You

| By ventovertea
Not everything our minds tell us is true: it’s extremely common to fall into faulty thinking patterns, or cognitive distortions, that can take a toll on our mental health.

Love and Attachment

| By ventovertea
In the world of dating, some partners seem to be overly attached while others are allergic to commitment. More often than not, this is the result of different attachment styles.

What It’s Like to Have Emetophobia

| By ventovertea
No one likes being sick. But emetophobia is more than that: it’s an all-consuming, paralyzing fear of throwing up that affects many aspects of daily life.

Staying Resilient in a Pandemic

| By ventovertea
As the covid-19 pandemic upheaves our lives in unprecedented ways, we may have to make an extra effort to build our resilience.

To Eat or Not to Eat

| By ventovertea
The road to recovery from an eating disorder is long and complex. Although my battle isn’t over, I hope that I can help others by sharing my story.

Food For Thought

| By ventovertea
Summer is here, which means that the sun is shining, the weather is warm, and invites are rolling in for barbecues and get-togethers… socially-distanced ones, that is.  It also means that we’re blessed with an abundance of fruit, vegetables, and other great nutrient-rich foods. And if you’ve been struggling with your mental health lately, you […]

More than a bad habit

| By ventovertea
We’ve all had bad habits. But when these behaviours become compulsive and distressing, they can be a symptom of something more serious.

Changing Careers in a Pandemic

| By ventovertea
Changing careers is almost always a scary decision, and these strange times can make it even easier to feel doubtful and insecure.

Gratitude in Isolation

| By ventovertea
As the pandemic makes us go through unprecedented challenges, practicing gratitude can help make our lives a little brighter.

The Problem With Self-Motivation

| By ventovertea
Staying motivated is fairly easy when you know you have to respect deadlines for school or for your job. But why does it get so hard when you’re the only person that can hold yourself accountable?

An Introvert’s Guide to Isolating With Others

| By ventovertea
In these times of social distancing, it’s common to feel lonely. But if you’re isolating with other people, it can also be hard to find time alone.

The Pressure to be Productive in a Pandemic

| By ventovertea
As everyone finds new ways to pass the time during the pandemic, many of us may feel guilty for not doing “enough.”

Journey in Psychosis

| By ventovertea
While conditions like anxiety and depression have become normalized, psychosis is still rarely talked about. By sharing my story, I hope I can contribute to lessening the stigma around it.

Self-Isolation and Mental Health

| By ventovertea
Self-isolation is a necessary step in our fight against the COVID-19 pandemic. Here are some tips to help you through this difficult time.

The Benefits of Walking in Circles

| By ventovertea
Labyrinths have existed for thousands of years. But did you know they could be used as a meditation tool?

The L Words

| By ventovertea
It’s easy to get caught up in chasing after romantic love. But if we make an effort to direct our attention elsewhere, we’ll see that we’re surrounded by all kinds of love that can be deeply fulfilling in their own ways.

Who Are We, Who Can We Be

| By ventovertea
Between social pressures and self-doubt, it can be a real struggle to figure out who you are – or who you want to be.

A Quick Guide to Virtual Mental Health Support

| By ventovertea
The current COVID-19 crisis has had a profound impact on the way we receive mental health services. Fortunately, there are things you can do to adjust to these new forms of therapy and active listening.

The Truth About Introverts and Extroverts

| By ventovertea
There’s a lot of stereotypes and misconceptions about what it means to be an introvert or an extrovert. Sometimes, it’s necessary to pull back and look at the truth behind the clichés.

In Harmony

| By ventovertea
Music is one of the great joys of life, and like most good things, it’s better when it’s shared. Don’t underestimate its impact on your ability to form meaningful bonds with others.

Home Away From Home

| By ventovertea
Living abroad can teach us so many things, but it also has its ups and downs. Here are some tips to help you get the most out of this life-changing experience.

Boredom Isn’t Boring

| By ventovertea
Webster’s dictionary defines boredom as “the state of being weary and restless through lack of interest.” That doesn’t sound very fun, and anyone that has ever been bored can confirm that it isn’t. Boredom can strike anywhere: on a long car trip, during a seemingly endless work meeting, or even on a weekend morning when […]

Why You Should Try Practicing Self-Compassion

| By ventovertea
Most of us are used to pushing ourselves to give our best and accomplish our goals. But what if we tried to show compassion to ourselves instead?

It’s OK To Be Unproductive

| By ventovertea
With the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it feels like we rarely get a minute to ourselves. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to be productive, but we must also learn to let ourselves unwind from time to time.

Surviving a Breakup 101

| By ventovertea
Going through a breakup isn’t easy, but it’s doable. Here are some things to remember in this difficult time.

How To Manage Holiday Stress

| By ventovertea
While we might be happy to see our family, eat delicious meals, and take a break from work, there is a stressful side to the holiday season. Here’s what you can do to take it in your stride.

The Value of Laughter

| By ventovertea
While it may seem counterintuitive to joke about mental illness, a sense of humour can be a powerful weapon to have in your arsenal.

Five Tips To Survive Job-Searching

| By ventovertea
Looking for work can be a taxing process, but there are things you can do to make it easier on your mental health.

Embracing the Holiday Pounds

| By ventovertea
After a few merry feasts, many of us struggle with feelings of shame and regret over gaining some “holiday weight.” This post-holiday season, it’s time to cut ourselves some slack.

Speaking of Mental Illness

| By ventovertea
It’s easy to mention mental illnesses in a casual, joking way. But we often underestimate the damage our words can do.

Say Hi to our new Blog Manager, Anna

| By ventovertea
As the new blog manager here at Vent Over Tea, I’d like to introduce myself and tell you how I came to write for this community.

What Aristotle Teaches Us About Friendships

| By ventovertea
Friends can be a great source of support and joy for us. But there are many different types of friendships, and sometimes it’s a good idea to take a closer look at how they impact our lives.

A Good Routine Keeps the Winter Blues Away

| By ventovertea
Many of us are affected by the “winter blues.” But we can limit its impact on our mental health with a routine that includes a sleep schedule, healthy eating habits, and exercise.

Self-Care and Staycations

| By ventovertea
While it may be tempting to use your precious vacation days to travel and explore, unwinding in the comfort of your own home can be a calming and ultimately more restorative choice.

The Comfort of Routines

| By ventovertea
Having an established routine has lots of benefits: it can help you reduce procrastination, lower your stress, and be a more productive person.

The Paradox of Mental Health on Campus

| By ventovertea
Universities are increasingly advocating for programs and resources to promote mental wellness on campus. This progress is at odds with the harmful rhetoric that goes on between students equating high stress levels with academic success. Awareness can be the first step to breaking this cycle.

The Beauty of Boundaries

| By ventovertea
It can be hard to say no to people you care about, but sometimes boundaries can make your connections stronger and more sustainable in the long term. Sometimes in order to be a good friend, you need to prioritize your own emotional health.

Distress Tolerance, or the Art of Sitting in the Fire

| By ventovertea
It’s never easy or comfortable to feel bad. But accepting our negative feelings is often the first step to coping with them in a healthy, mindful way.

A Matter of Life and Death

| By ventovertea
 I know that it’s honest. But if that’s what I really think, am I doing it in practice? Am I leaving my comfort zone enough? Am I taking time to give back to my community and appreciate the lighter moments in my life? It’s so easy to get caught up in our fast-paced world that […]

Staying Grounded with Radical Acceptance

| By ventovertea
Sometimes forgiving yourself and letting yourself off the hook can be the most difficult thing to do. Radical acceptance can be an invaluable tool when trying to move on from tough times.

Growing Pains

| By ventovertea
It can be tough to get comfortable being uncomfortable, but you’d be surprised how your life can change when you’re willing to be vulnerable.

Self Care and Creativity

| By ventovertea
The stereotype of the “tortured artist” is not necessarily accurate. Many individuals in artistic realms are choosing self-care to help sustain their creative energy.

On Empathy and Healing

| By ventovertea
Being an empathetic person is a wonderful quality to have, but it is also important to practice mindfulness to ensure that your own mental health is protected while connecting with others.

Why We Don’t Like To Talk About Anger

| By ventovertea
Anger is a complicated emotion, and one that hasn’t been spoken about as much as other mental health issues. Instead of repressing it, sometimes understanding it can be the first step of healing.

Perfectionism vs. Puppies

| By ventovertea
When we chase after achievements, it’s easy to feel like anything short of perfection just isn’t good enough. But spending time with our furry friends can give us a whole other perspective on life and happiness.

Summer is Coming

| By ventovertea
Take advantage of all the mood boosting activities and wellness benefits that these upcoming months have to offer!

Are Digital Diets for Everyone?

| By ventovertea
In our modern world, is it feasible to go offline for good?

Meet our New Blog Manager, Elsa

| By ventovertea
I wanted to introduce myself and let you all know how I got involved with this amazing team!

Mindful Me-Time

| By ventovertea
Time is our most precious commodity, but we’re all guilty of taking it for granted sometimes. We all need a reminder to evaluate our lives and how we’re spending our “free time”.

Decisions, Decisions

| By ventovertea
Choosing a career can be a daunting task. Sometimes we are inundated with so many options that it’s hard to choose one at all. Luckily there are tools to help figure out where you want to go!

Three Reasons to Include Cooking in your Self-Care Routine

| By ventovertea
Cooking can be a wonderful opportunity to be mindful and to take care of yourself and others.

Under Pressure

| By ventovertea
Do you need to be mentally stronger than the rest of the population to be an elite athlete? What can we learn from the world-class athletes who have publicly talked about their struggles with mental illness?

The Value of Community

| By ventovertea
Creating connections and joining a community can be incredibly fulfilling. Now that spring is here (hopefully), seeking out new groups is a little easier!

What to do When Your Roommate has Depression

| By ventovertea
If your roommate is suffering from depression, it can be tough to know how to help them while still maintaining your own mental health. Here are some thoughts on how to navigate this situation empathetically.

The Procrastination Problem

| By ventovertea
It can be tempting to delay doing your work until the last second, but procrastination can take a toll on your mental health. Luckily, there are some good habits that can help you get things done!

Overcoming Loneliness

| By ventovertea
Loneliness can be a paralyzing feeling. Here are a few helpful ways to reconnect with others.

Netflix and Breaking Down Stigma

| By ventovertea
February weather can make going outside a challenge. Here are three shows that are not only entertaining, but also touch upon mental health in thoughtful ways.

Spread the Love this Valentine’s Day

| By ventovertea
Valentine’s Day can be a lot of pressure for people in and out of relationships, luckily there is another way to approach February 14th.

Are You Dismissing Uncommon Signs of Anxiety?

| By ventovertea
Getting by is not the same as thriving. Don’t ignore signs that feel off just because they don’t fit the stereotypes.

Stopping the Snowball Effect

| By ventovertea
The core issue with social anxiety is that nervous thoughts can accumulate and build upon themselves. Rumination is when you have one anxious thought, which leads to another, and a snowball effect occurs. But there are ways to stop it!

A Change in the Right Direction

| By ventovertea
A new year can bring with it some pressures that are difficult to avoid when self-improvement is the flavour of the month. Whether or not you made resolutions this year, there are a few things to consider when trying to make a change in your life.

Cold Comfort

| By ventovertea
It’s not uncommon to have a hard time in the winter months. The good news is, there are things you can do to make this time of year better.

How to Help Your Therapist Help You

| By ventovertea
Even as attitudes on mental health are changing, there seems to be a lingering sense of skepticism towards therapy. It’s crucial for us to believe in the solution just as much as we believe in the problem.

Homesick for the Holidays

| By ventovertea
Whether it’s your first or your fifth time, spending the holidays away from home can be tough. But it can still be great!

How Will You Spend Your Time This Holiday Season?

| By ventovertea
Everyone is busy around the holidays, but did you know that when you spend your time helping others, you feel like you have more free time? On top of that, people who volunteer tend to be happier than those who don’t!

Moving Toward Connection

| By ventovertea
There is quite a difference between being alone and being lonely, something I felt acutely when I moved to Taiwan.

Art In Mind: Supported by BCA Research

| By ventovertea
We are so excited for our second annual fundraiser tonight! We couldn’t have done it without our event partner, BCA Research!

What To Do After A Loved One’s Suicide Attempt

| By ventovertea
Coping with the aftermath of my sister’s suicide attempt was a lot like fumbling in the dark; I didn’t know what I was doing, or where I was going. Here are a few tips I wish someone would’ve told me.

Mental Illness and Dating

| By ventovertea
Do you feel that it’s necessary to disclose your mental illness to your partner and, if so, how? Do you use dating apps and, if so, how do they affect your mental health? What kinds of stigma have you experienced because of your mental illness?

Open the Floodgates

| By ventovertea
Suppressing the urge to cry is usually an attempt to suppress the emotions making you tear up, giving these negative feelings a chance to grow and become stronger

Speak from the Heart

| By ventovertea
We all have our own favorite ways to express and receive love. Talking about love languages to the people around you can be a great way to improve your relationships.

Just A Thought

| By ventovertea
Nearly our entire conscious life is filled up with thoughts, but do you ever stop to think about your them? Do you ever question them?

Gratitude is for more than Thanksgiving

| By ventovertea
You always think that when things get better, you’ll be happier again. But by practicing gratitude you’ll train yourself to see the good in your life regardless of the situation, which can have physical and mental health benefits.

Falling out of Fear

| By ventovertea
If falling = failing, rock climbing forced me to face failure over and over again. I lay on the mat – still dizzy from my fall, but otherwise unharmed – and thought to myself: “I have failed. What now?”

How to Stop Pulling Yourself Apart

| By ventovertea
I’ve lived my entire life with a compulsive need to pull myself apart – literally. I have a rare condition called trichotillomania. In English terms, I pull my hair out.

The Best Medicine

| By ventovertea
Getting your news through comedians isn’t about laughing things off or accepting the state of things, it’s about being reminded that what is going on IS absurd, that it ISN’T normal.

Breaking Down Coffee Breaks

| By ventovertea
I was kind of worried that it would be awkward initiating conversation with strangers, but it turned out to be really easy.

Get Down to the Nitty Gritty

| By ventovertea
Grit is all about passion and perseverance for meaningful goals, and you can develop it yourself with, well, grit.

My OCD Story, or How I Climbed back up the Staircase

| By ventovertea
When I was 13, it occurred to me that it was completely and terrifyingly possible for me to grab a knife and stab a random person if I wanted to, a thought I would obsess over for years.

The Light Side of Social Media

| By ventovertea
Social media is a big part of our daily lives. We’ve all heard about the negative side-effects of social media on our mental health and well-being. But how can we use social media in a positive way to enhance our lives?

Did You Hear…?

| By ventovertea
Everybody gossips. Everybody has derived some delight from sharing or hearing news about someone else. It’s human nature. But how is it impacting ourselves and others?

Self-Care Lessons from a Puppy

| By ventovertea
It’s so easy to get caught up in the rush around us that we forget to include time for personal care. Don’t forget to bring it back every now and then with these reminders from a puppy!

What’s a Habit Between Friends?

| By ventovertea
Sometimes they can help and sometimes they can hinder, but ultimately, having social support can make the difficulties of building new habits much more bearable. If nothing else, it can serve as a reminder that we aren’t alone.

Men and Mental Health

| By ventovertea
Men are less likely to put up their hands and ask for help than women, and it’s affecting their mental and physical health.

A Second Coming Out

| By ventovertea
There are stigmas around being in the LGBTQ+ community. And there are stigmas around having mental health issues. What if you fall into both categories?

Finding Happy Mediums

| By ventovertea
Compromise is something we have to do constantly in all kinds of relationships, and it can be crucial to developing closer connections with people.

Does Growing Up Mean Growing Apart?

| By ventovertea
Allowing yourself to grow is one of the most rewarding endeavours you can undertake, but many of us avoid personal development because they worry it will change their relationships.

Finding Your Group

| By ventovertea
I consider myself an outgoing person so I thought making friends would be a walk in the park! Unfortunately, it wasn’t so simple.

Summer Blues

| By ventovertea
While warm weather, longer days, and more vacation time can make some people feel euphoric and free, it can make others feel agitated, guilty, tired, and jealous.

Power in Vulnerability

| By ventovertea
Most of us know real connections are important, but research is finding more and more that many of us are lacking those exact types of meaningful relationships.

Vent Over Tea … in Calgary!

| By ventovertea
VENT OVER TEA IS HEADING WEST: June 1st marks the official launch date of the Calgary chapter of Vent Over Tea!

Support System and Success

| By ventovertea
How often do you set a goal, create a plan, and then…bow out early rather than hold out for the long-term success? When it comes to achieving our goals, some of us are better than others at sticking to our plans, especially when the payoff seems far away.

Don’t Walk Through Grief Alone

| By ventovertea
Hearing other people’s stories gave me hope that the sting of my mom’s absence would ease. That’s why I decided to share my story.

Mentally Healing from Physical Injury

| By ventovertea
Getting injured sucks. So how do you keep the feelings of anger, frustration, sadness, isolation, and lack of motivation at bay while you recover?

Warming Up to Working Out

| By ventovertea
Exercise is a fantastic tool to have in your mental health tool kit, but if we think of it as an intimidating production, we may not use it. Instead start small, and take it day by day.

Creature comforts

| By ventovertea
Whether you’re a self-proclaimed adorer of little critters or not, spending time around friendly animals can help reduce stress and feelings of loneliness as well as improve your self esteem and outlook on life. Plus, they’re cute!

Crashing to a HALT

| By ventovertea
HALT is a self-care technique where you check in with yourself to see if you’re feeling Hungry, Angry, Lonely, or Tired – and then try to fix the problem in a deliberate, healthy way.

Coffee Break February 7th – Event Recap

| By ventovertea
On the evening of the seventh of February, there was a snowstorm in Montreal. This was not an unusual occurrence. However, as the chunky snowflakes tumbled their way down from the sky, veiling themselves over the snug streets of Saint-Henri, magic was happening at a beloved local joint, Cafe Joe.

Better Self-Care Together

| By ventovertea
It’s often easier to provide care than it is to ask for it, but when we’re feeling down, overwhelmed, or stressed, we should have someone in our life to turn to for comfort.

The Time to Talk is Now

| By ventovertea
The stigma surrounding mental illness is one of the leading reasons that people avoid seeking help, which is only made worse when leaders in society link mental illness to gun violence

Calling All Pals!

| By ventovertea
Palentine’s Day is about celebrating great relationships with the great people who are in our lives, and it might just be the perfect antidote to Valentine’s day

Being Heard

| By ventovertea
As a venter, I learned that sometimes what helps lessen the burden is talking to someone who will listen completely when you admit, “I’m hurting. Can I tell you my story?”

Let’s Talk. And Listen. And Volunteer.

| By ventovertea
Whether or not you suffer from mental illness, understanding mental health issues – what they are, how they affect people, how you can help – is important for everyone

State of the Art Therapy

| By ventovertea
Art therapy is the encouragement of free self-expression through different art mediums. In clinical practice, it has been used as a therapeutic tool to help with a variety of issues.

Grateful for Gratitude

| By ventovertea
Showing gratitude can have so many benefits. When you tell the important people in your life how they’ve helped you become the person you are, you can deepen your relationships and make them feel good.

New Rules for New Year’s Resolutions

| By ventovertea
New Year’s resolutions in particular have become a sort of cultural expectation. I get that the external hurrah surrounding New Year’s resolutions and the sense of community that comes with it provides a boost of motivation to achieve them, but, are they actually working?

Presence for the People

| By ventovertea
People who spend their days on city streets, particularly those who are begging for money, get ignored by hundreds of people every day.

Tender Loving Care

| By ventovertea
What is self-care? Admittedly, a smart ass such as myself would reply to that question with the confidence of a thousand horses saying, “It is the act of caring for oneself!” which, although not an incorrect description, doesn’t fully encapsulate all it means.

Feeling Under the Weather

| By ventovertea
With the world getting darker earlier and the sky sending it’s evil little white things down to us, this is the most common time of the year for people to get sad. Seasonal Affective Disorder, abbreviated as SAD, is a type of depression that relates to the changes of the seasons.

Stop Resisting Rest

| By ventovertea
Our nights are the indicators of how our days are going to go. When we rest well, we can face things more head on, think critically about our problems that ‘tired us’ would struggle with.

Curiouser and Curiouser

| By ventovertea
Being interesting is a pretty typical social goal to have, but have you tried being interested? As a big talker, I often try to think about ways to contribute to conversations that will make me seem funny, entertaining, or smart, but after doing a little research on the positive effects of curiosity on all kinds […]

Why Cyclist Safety in Montreal is a Community Problem

| By ventovertea
These incidents are indicative of a problem that extends beyond reckless lane changes and forgotten blind spots.

Run Stranger Run

| By ventovertea
There is a reason that people choose to sign up for races that you cannot fully understand until you sign up for one yourself. It’s only at an event that you get the adrenaline rush, the excitement, and the feeling that you are a part of an enormous community.

Get What You Need

| By ventovertea
Communicating your needs can be tricky because oftentimes you’re worried that you might offend someone, hurt their feelings, or seem presumptuous.

Falling for Fall

| By ventovertea
There are still lots of ways to make new connections before the weather turns cold and we all want to stay bundled inside our apartments with a few choice people.

Help Wanted

| By ventovertea
Being self aware enough to recognize that you need help and then knowing how to ask for it is no simple feat, and at times it’s a necessary one.

Changing Minds

| By ventovertea
This blog often talks about the power of conversation and all the wonders communication can bring, and I believe in every word that’s been written, but I’ve also been overwhelmed recently by how little impact conversations can have when it comes to changing people’s minds.

The New Friend Zone

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Once you’ve left school, it dawns on you how difficult it is to make new friends. There’s a vulnerability to it, and sitting in the comfort of our homes typing on our phones or computers lessens that vulnerability a bit.

Talking to Yourself About It

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Despite the negative connotations that go along with ‘talking’ to yourself, checking in with yourself, being aware of how you’re feeling, knowing how to express your thoughts and emotions, and encouraging or regulating yourself are all positive things.

Lessons from an Original Hippie Commune

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Many of the communes that began in the 60’s have since died out – largely due to an inability to support themselves financially. Twin Oaks has been successfully supporting itself since 1967 through production of hammocks, furniture, and most recently tofu.

Reality

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Reality is in itself an agreed upon fabrication of our collective consciousness, making the emotions caused by a dream – or a perceived reality – just as real as any other emotion.

Emotion Palette

| By ventovertea
As humans, we have the unique ability to experience a colourful palette of complex, rich emotions: we can be green with envy, sometimes we have the blues and other times our faces are tinged red with embarrassment or rage.

Talking To Strangers

| By ventovertea
It may seem counterintuitive, but in certain contexts, you can feel more secure sharing a secret with a stranger than with someone close to you.

Updates and Reflections – July 2017

| By ventovertea
Conversations with strangers. I’ve always enjoyed them, but I never thought I would spend some of my mid-twenties building an organization around them. Such is life and here I am, watching what was once a tiny seed of an idea in Sarah Fennessey’s head blossom into an entirely volunteer-run organization that acts as the ears […]

Tiny Screens

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Since the first brick hit the market, our phones have gotten smaller and smaller in the hopes of making our world feel a little smaller too, and while phones have made long distances feel small, they’ve also made small ones much bigger.

One Size Does Not Fit All

| By ventovertea
The problem with using clichés as a way of understanding and giving meaning to someone’s current situation is that, although they are not necessarily false, they are incomplete and simultaneously oversimplify and minimize people’s experiences

What to Expect When You’re Venting

| By ventovertea
What is Vent Over Tea? What happens during a vent session? And, what happens after? The short answer is that this is different for everyone; the long answer is that the concept of our vent sessions depends on two imperative elements: a sense of intimacy and no prior relationship or necessary follow-up.

Listen Between the Lines

| By ventovertea
Listening is the first step to communicating with someone, but there’s more to it than simply hearing the words the other person says.

Tech Talk

| By ventovertea
Sometimes, you know that you need to talk with someone about what you’re going through or what they’re going through, but there’s a distance.

Coffee Talk

| By ventovertea
Imagine walking into a coffee shop and everyone working on their laptop or looking at their phone was instead talking to another customer.

Escaping Escapism

| By ventovertea
Whether the stories are fantastical, realistic, silly, or dark, there’s a freedom that comes with allowing yourself to be engrossed in a fictional world. Sometimes we abuse this ability to avoid our own world.

Small Talk for a Big City

| By ventovertea
It’s strange how you can be pressed up against another person in a metro car during rush hour and yet feel completely alone.

Talk About It

| By ventovertea
There are some thingsin life that are tough to talk about. It’s important we make the space to talk about them anyway.

Chatter

| By ventovertea
I’ve been in therapy for mental health issues twice. On both occasions, the question I was asked was, “Have you talked to anyone about this?”

The Loveliness of the Winter Blues

| By ventovertea
The cold wind sends shivers up your spine and puts a heaviness in your heart that wasn’t there before.

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