2020: what a year, hey?
Shortly after we returned, it became evident that this was, in fact, real. Very real. The notion of a global pandemic was so foreign to me, to most of us I believe, that when it was first announced by the World Health Organization it was too much for me to wrap my mind around. Five days later, everything went into lock down and I was left alone with my thoughts and too much time.
Sometimes clarity comes with a sharp purity that stings and snaps us out of any illusions we have about our current reality. Sometimes clarity hurts, and sometimes it makes us see the things we’ve been avoiding for far too long, the truths we haven’t wanted to acknowledge.
2020 has been uncomfortable, let me tell you that. The beginning of that first quarantine was such a drastic shift for me. I went from being with people nearly every day to spending all of my time physically isolated from anyone I knew. I’ve lived alone all through this pandemic, and at first it was really hard. I struggled to communicate with my friends. I struggled to sit with myself. Old wounds came up and drama ensued, and some friendships fell apart. While some things were crumbling faster than I could piece them back together again, in other places I was growing stronger than I’d ever been before.
Ultimately, with clarity comes an opportunity for healing—when we clear out the old, we are able to make space for the new. Clarity may sting, but it’s also empowering.
When I didn’t know what else to do, I started sitting still. Early on in the first lockdown, I began the practice of sitting in silence for ten to twenty every morning right after I finished eating my breakfast, and it has been magical. At first it was somewhat difficult; I didn’t necessarily enjoy listening and giving space to my thoughts, I was doing it because I knew it was good for me. I knew I would feel better if I did.
At some point during the summer, things began to shift. I was smiling more of my own accord and I was making myself laugh a lot. I began to define 2020 as the year I became my own best friend, as opposed to writing it off as the year everything fell apart. Through all the chaos and uncertainty, I found my way back home to myself and remembered the things I have always loved to do. These things anchored me to a new-found sense of purpose and surprised me with how simple or easy they could be.
My experience of 2020 has reminded me of a poem I wrote some time last year: healing is an unravelling of sorts—you pull and pull until you get back to the core of what was there all along.
This is the magic of the healing process—it’s so much simpler than we sometimes make it out to be. Clarity doesn’t always come in the form you want it to, but if we listen and take note when it does arrive, we can move forward with more ease and knowledge of how we’d like to continue on.
When things fall apart, you get to choose how you stitch them back together.
How will you move forward with all you’ve learned and grown through this year?
That is up to you.